INTERPERSONAL EFFECTIVENESS: Ending Harmful Relationships - The Alpha Male

There's a certain psychological type that is toxic to me.
and that is...........the ALPHA MALE.

The Alpha Male is deadly to my well being and must be avoided at all costs.

I usually gravitate to an Alpha Male. 

..I need to remind myself every time that

..it is the intensity of the Alpha Male that attracts me and that intensity isn't love.

Alpha males are about exhibiting traits that are essentially masculine or “macho. 

In work settings, the alpha male may be a natural leader, exuding confidence. But he also may be contentious, demanding and difficult to work with. This is thought to be in part due to the alpha male attempting to retain his stature, however unconsciously, as alpha.

Being the top salesperson, the quickest worker, the most aggressive boss may contribute to remaining at the top, and the alpha male has a tendency to respond aggressively to any attempts by others to outshine him. 

In the human setting, the alpha male usually doesn’t fight physically, but instead acts with language, brusque or dismissive behavior, or with other tactics to remain at the top.

Though leaders in a company are excellent to have, alpha male characteristics in the workplace may not always be seen as positive. Aggression and disregard for others are not necessarily inspiring. 

Questions remain as to whether the alpha male can retain mates, since relationships often require ability to compromise, to discuss feelings and to be sensitive. Some alpha males have these characteristics typically thought of as beta, but many of them lack such traits. 

Here are some alpha male characteristics.
#1) Strong body language.  He maintains good posture, even if it's tiring or painful.  He makes eye contact with people.  He takes up space.  His gestures and eye movements are slow and deliberate.

#2) He doesn't qualify himself.  A natural alpha male doesn't feel the need to explain or apologize for his behavior, nor does he find it necessary to prove himself to others or brag about his success.  He's pleased if you like him, but he doesn't care if you don't.  
 #3) He is the center of attention.  He will often physically be in the center of a group, and other members of the interaction will be oriented towards him.  He leads conversations, tells jokes, and makes decisions for the entire group.

#4) He is calm and confident.  He doesn't act nervous around women or other dominant men, and he doesn't feel the need to act tough or fake self-esteem in order to appear self-assured.

#5) He is not easily impressed.  Because the natural alpha male is a high achiever, he is not easily impressed with the achievements of others.  He maintains high standards in all situations, and only lets women of high-value earn his attention. 

Whenever I come across a Alpha Male I must remember that this is a deal breaker for my sanity.  I must walk away and shut the door.